How do you write a condolence?

Condolence messages: examples and tips for a thoughtful message

Many people search for a suitable condolence message when someone has passed away. Yet finding the right words is often difficult. You want to say something personal, but you are not quite sure how.

Perhaps you are unsure whether to send a message at all, or what exactly to write. That uncertainty is completely normal. Even so, a simple message can mean a great deal to those who are grieving.

On this page, you will find examples of condolence messages and practical tips to help you write something sincere and meaningful.

Need a condolence message right away?

Here are some short condolence messages you can use immediately:

• My condolences for your loss.
• Wishing you strength during this difficult time.
• You are in my thoughts.
• Words cannot express how sorry I am.
• Wishing you much strength.
• Our thoughts are with you.

What should you write when someone dies?

What you write after a death does not have to be complicated. The most important thing is letting someone know that you care.

A good condolence message often includes:

• An acknowledgement of the loss.
• An expression of sympathy.
• A wish for strength or comfort.

For example:

"My condolences on the loss of your father. I wish you strength during this difficult time."

If you are unsure how to support someone beyond your message, read our article about comforting someone after a loss for practical advice on staying connected with the bereaved.

Short condolence messages (for cards or messages)

• My condolences for your loss.
• Wishing you strength.
• With deepest sympathy.
• You are in my thoughts.
• Wishing you strength during this difficult time.
• Thinking of you and your family.

Personal condolence messages

If you would like to say a little more, you can add a personal touch:

• Sometimes there are no words, only feelings. Wishing you strength.
• I do not know exactly what to say, but please know that I am thinking of you.
• Words cannot express the sadness of this loss.
• I wish you strength as you cope with this sorrow.
• We are thinking of you during this difficult time.

Formal condolence messages for work or professional relationships

• Please accept my sincere condolences.
• Our deepest sympathies on the loss of ...
• We are deeply saddened by this loss.
• It was with great sadness that we learned of the passing.
• We wish you and your family strength and comfort during this time.

Condolence message examples by situation

For a friend

• I am thinking of you and sending you strength.
• You are in my thoughts now and in the weeks ahead.

For family

• We wish you strength as you come to terms with this loss.
• The loss will be deeply felt. Please know that we are thinking of you.

For a colleague

• Wishing you strength during this difficult time.
• We are thinking of you and your family.

Condolence messages after a sudden death

• This loss is heartbreaking and unimaginable. We are thinking of you.
• There are no words. Wishing you strength.
• Everything has changed so suddenly. You are in our thoughts.
• Gone far too soon.

Comforting words

• Forever a special place in our hearts.
• The loss will be deeply felt.
• Precious memories will remain.
• Love does not end when life does.
• What is held so deeply in the heart is never truly lost.

Words for the person who has passed away

• Forever in our hearts.
• We miss you and remember you with love.
• A wonderful person has left us.
• Your memory lives on.
• You meant the world to us.

Tips for writing a condolence message

Keep it simple

A few sentences are enough. It is not about length, but sincerity.

Write as you would speak

Your own words often feel more personal than standard phrases.

Acknowledge the loss

Doing so helps recognise the reality of the grief.

Avoid uncomfortable clichés

Phrases such as "everything happens for a reason" or "it will all be alright" may not be comforting.

Add something personal

A memory or personal quality can make your message more meaningful.

Leaving a condolence message on a memorial page

More and more people choose to leave condolences on an online memorial page. It provides a place where family and friends can share messages, photographs and memories.

Would you like to create a space where condolences and memories come together? At Remembr, you can create a personal memorial page where others can leave messages and share their memories.

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Frequently asked questions about condolence messages

What is a good condolence message?

A good condolence message is brief, sincere and shows that you care.

How long should a condolence message be?

The length does not matter. Even a single sentence can be enough.

What should you write if you do not know the person well?

Keep it simple and respectful, for example:

"My condolences for your loss. Wishing you strength during this difficult time."

Is a standard condolence message good enough?

Yes. What matters most is thoughtfulness, not originality.

In conclusion

Writing a condolence message is always personal. There are no perfect words, only words intended to offer support.

If you are unsure, send a message anyway. Even a small gesture can mean a great deal.